I, myself, have struggled with what it means to truly respect my husband in every season and circumstance. Especially when I don’t always agree with him! In my own journey of discovering what respect look like in marriage, I have found some guiding principles along the way that has helped me stay grounded.
Marriage conflicts are a matter of life. Unfortunately, they are bound to happen, and it's something we must learn how to manage to prevent the next one from happening. This is especially important, because if not addressed properly, your next conflict could bring you closer to the road of separation.
Quite some time back, I was picking up several kids from school. We had to cross a big monsoon drain to reach my car. My son and daughter crossed through without thinking too much about it. However, the other two kids were left on the ledge calling for help. This got me thinking. What caused the difference in the two responses?
In the early years of my marriage, whenever my thoughts, desires and emotions were not met or attended to by my wife, I had the tendency to ensure that they are met or attended to, even if it meant getting into fights with her.
... the once upon a time chatter box becomes a grunt-box. Sounds become their language. Exasperating and frustrating for parents who bemoan the fact that their teenagers do not have conversations with them anymore. And because of that, they’re often in the dark about the well-being and personal lives of their offspring. Sometimes it feels like you’ve got a stranger in the house!
The pre-adolescent years, or what my 9-year-old YouTube-scholar said is called a tween, is a tough spot to be in. This is what I call the between “Don’t talk and ask so much” and “Why aren’t you asking more questions in class?” phases in a tween’s life.
Imagine if there is an annual performance appraisal done for our role as a parent, how would you reckon our children or spouse would rate our performance and contribution to the family? Is there going to be a bonus this year?